Consider the lionand the lioness. The lion has the beautiful mane and the lioness does not. In Jasmin-speak with my twenty-nine cents, I totally believe that it is equated to the fact that the male species has to work to attract our attention. The
lion parades around to capture her attention, whichever one intrigues her is generally the one she responds to.
Carry that over to humans. Combining my constant pondering, desire to understand, reading, and self-awareness that causes me to reflect A LOT coupled with an ongoing reflection, I have decided that:
A man is like a lion and a woman is like a lioness. Considering my own personal life (which I don’t directly talk about often in a public forum and of course I am pondering what that means), day to day/weekend to weekend, there are any number of men directly and indirectly attempting to capture my attention. It is the law of nature. It is by design. I say attempting to capture because I am focused on my assignment/purpose like Ruth of the Bible. Boaz found Ruth working, which I translate to being
focused on my assignment in present-day terms. So at any given point there are a number of attempts; however, the ones that resonate with me are the ones that capture my attention and simultaneously intrigue me. Intrigue me to the point that I pause and consider and actually allow space in my mind to say: “Hmmmm.” While saying Hmmmm, I am still in motion taking care of what needs to be taken care, while filing the moment or moments in my mind. At this point in my life nothing happens with my level of intrigue, if I am not directly approached. When I was younger, I got so excited with the indirect attempts that I sometimes became to a certain degree immobile and became distracted.
Some say I am old-fashioned. Some say I need to step into the “new millennium,” which translates to mean: “Get with the times Jasmin! Go after what you want.” Now, I have no issue with anyone who decides to do that—none at all. But just like I tell my students I stay in my zone according to my comfort level with a little deviation every other blue moon. Deviation that tells me to slow down or to stop frowning (I’m thinking when I frown) or simply to relax. With that being said and connecting it to the animal kingdom and humans, men no longer hunt solely for food to provide for themselves and their families. And because they do not hunt for food, I say they hunt for women. Hunting/Seeking/Pursuing is innate. It is innate, but dormant in a lot of men because of this outbreak of new age or millennium women that take the initial steps of pursuit and in Jasmin-speak run men down to the point they cannot even express interest because of the bombardment. This dormancy has caused some men to be lazy and to even act as if they in fact are the ones who need to be pursued. I do not know how many times I have heard: “What’s wrong with you? You’re not acting right.” Have mercy! I’m not acting right? Or is it that I am acting according to the fact that I know I am the lady-the one to be pursued. If men by design are hunters, then they hunt/seek/pursue what they desire. It is a simple as that. If a man desires to pursue a woman, he will do it directly with no questions asked. I truly
believe that some people who mean to concern themselves with my personal life enough to comment on it and offer an unsolicited opinion do so because they are contending with something internally that has nothing to do with me, except that
my desire to live life in my season is apparent.
The tailor-made woman for tailor-made man will be his rib, his rib and not a thorn in his side. And if two people are tailor-made for each other there is no need for games and reasons to look to the outside world of social media, music, etc to guide and inform their interaction. We look to outside and exterior things entirely too much to inform us on matters of the heart that are communicated through dialogue and interaction.
Because we live our lives according our own terms encompassed by personal beliefs, standards, and convictions, we honestly have no right to down anyone else’s decision to do or not to do, to be or not to be. Life essentially is about
choices and at many points some of those choices can provoke us to launch into the deep or stay in the shallow end. It is all a matter of choice.
With using that launching analogy, I have to share this again:
I do not understand why some fisherwo/men fish in the shallow end get upset when they catch the lower-end of the spectrum of fish. That does not even make sense. How can s/he expect salmon, but drop line in a pond or lake, instead of the ocean? If we are not willing to launch into the deep or unfamiliar territories, then we should not complain about what we reel in.
We have one life to live. Live it out loud, on purpose, and with purpose. Be proactive. Seize the day. Seize the moment. Seize the seconds that lend to living a full, well-balanced life.
That’s my twenty-nine cents.
Now, I don’t know if this is all even connected and I’m sure I will have to go back and reedit, especially since my wheels are still turning.
*I do not particularly care for the current connotation of the word “female.”
*This is an initial draft. I will edit/revise adding vivid verbs and omitting linking verbs, etc.
*My third read/edit. Revisiting soon.